Bullying has plagued humanity since the dawn of time, likely dating back to the moment one caveman realized he could mock another for having fewer mammoth tusks. While this topic is serious (and rightfully so), let’s try to explore it with a sprinkle of humor to find ways to combat it effectively. In this article, we try to briefly unravel the science behind bullying.
Introduction: Bullies, the “Mosquitoes” of Human Interaction
The phenomenon of bullying encompasses aggressive behavior intended to harm, dominate, or humiliate someone perceived as weaker. Whether it’s the classic lunch-money shakedown or a subtweet that ruins your week, bullies adapt to the era they live in, evolving much like viruses. Bullies are like mosquitoes—annoying, persistent, and often bite where it hurts most. While they don’t spread malaria (thank goodness), they do spread feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
Modern Bullying: From Hallways to Hashtags
Besides “traditional” bullying, which happens in physical environments such as schools, neighborhoods, and places where people meet, another form of bullying has emerged. As the digital age has given us many gifts: cat memes, online shopping, but, unfortunately, cyberbullying too. Unlike the traditional variety, cyberbullying offers the anonymity of the internet, making it the coward’s playground. Consider this equation:
Keyboard + Internet Connection = Unchecked Toxicity
Anonymity amplifies aggressive behavior. Translation: trolls are just bullies in pajamas.
Both types of bullying can have devastating effects on the victim, leading to issues with self-esteem, anxiety, depression, school difficulties, and worse. Therefore, it’s essential to recognize the warning signs and intervene quickly to protect victims and prevent future incidents.
The Psychology of Targets
Targets often share traits like kindness, sensitivity, or an exceptional ability to exist without offending anyone (the horror!). While it’s never the victim’s fault, bullies seem to sniff out certain qualities like sharks smell blood.
But why? It might be because empathetic and non-aggressive individuals threaten the bully’s fragile ego. (So…if you’re nice, you might just be too powerful.)
How to Outsmart a Bully (and Look Cool Doing It)
Resilience can serve as a protective factor to help cope with bullying or cyberbullying. Certain components of resilience such as levels of optimism, self-efficacy, adaptability, tolerance, and sensitivity decrease the probability of victimization. Here’s some tips:
Channel Your Inner Calm: Keep cool, show you don’t care. Indifference is kryptonite to a bully. Pro tip: Practice your “whatever” face in the mirror.
Assemble Your Avengers: Bullies thrive in isolation. Surround yourself with supportive friends who can counteract their negativity. Remember: Even Batman needed a sidekick.
Use Science…and Sarcasm: Calmly pointing out a bully’s logical fallacies can be surprisingly effective. Humor or a clever response to weaken the effect of the mean behavior. Example: “Oh, so you’re mocking me because I read books? Fascinating. Please elaborate on how literacy offends you.”
Report, Report, Report: Reporting bullying isn’t tattling; it’s asserting boundaries. Schools and workplaces are obligated to address these issues. And if they don’t, unleash your inner advocate and escalate appropriately.
Conclusion: Be the Mosquito Repellent
Bullying is a complex social behavior rooted in psychology, biology, and, sometimes, plain bad manners. While its impact is no laughing matter, humor can be a powerful tool in understanding and combating it. By dissecting the absurdity of bullying, we empower ourselves to rise above it.
And it’s important to talk about it openly… with friends, parents, and teachers. The problem isn’t the victim; it’s the bully. Regardless of the reason for the bullying, the issue lies with the bully and their actions. Speaking up is your best defense.
So, the next time a bully comes buzzing your way, remember: You’re not just a target; you’re the swatter.
What Can You Do to Help Your Mini-Me?
- Talk Openly: Discuss what bullying is with your children, so that they will be able to identify it and be more likely to share it if they witness or experience it. Make it a habit to check in with not just about their daily activities, but also about their feelings
- Build Confidence: Encourage your child to join activities they love, helping them to find supportive peer groups.
- Lead by example: Your children look-up to you. Show your child how to treat others with kindness and respect, speaking up when others are mistreated.
- Engage in Their Online Life: Get to know the platforms your child uses, help them understand the connection between the online and offline worlds, and discuss the various risks they may encounter online and teach them how the online and offline worlds are interconnected.

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